EXAMPLE CONVERSATION

Normal text is what you would say, bold is the subjects responses.

(You walk over to a person and sit down at their table. You have maybe spoke to this person a few times before. You have just come off your summer holidays. Note: they are sitting in the perfect posture already)

“Hi. Did you have a nice time on holiday? Where did you go again?”
“Wigan.” ☺
“Oh, I bet that was lovely wasn’t it? Can you describe the holiday to me please?”
(Subject places her hand on chin, a few moments later you mirror this)
“Well, It looked really nice, there was loads of night clubs and stuff! And the music there is great!”
“Ahh!, You like me, like music! What was your best memory from the holiday?”
(We now know she processes Visually then Auditory, so next must be Kinaesthetically)
“Yeah. I was dancing at this night club and it was really fun, the music had been playing for hours and it was early in the morning, we just had a really great time dancing and drinking!” (Emotional peak > anchored by scratching neck-visual anchor)
“Yeah, I can picture that. It looks really good. My best memory of my holiday was the first day when everything just starts to sink in. I remember looking around as I got off the plane and I saw the best view ever. The island was picturesque. Bordered with mountains and beaches with crystal- clear water. And when you got to the seaside, all you could hear was the sound of crashing waves and seagulls. The water-sports there were great. You could do anything from jet-skiing to canoeing. Can you imagine that?”
(Testing how far I was getting with the rapport, I began to attempt leading the mirroring)
“Wow, I can almost see that, It sounds really great. I remember, we had a really strange couple staying in the room next to us, they said the weirdest stuff!”
“Haha! Really? Actually I can picture this couple who were at a bar one night near to me. I was listening to what they were saying (because I am nosey!) and the man was gazing into the woman’s eyes, he touched her shoulder (touch shoulder) leaned over and said
“I love you loads, I am going crazy about you, I just want to kiss you so badly; it is driving me wild and I know you feel the same way about me!” Can you imagine that?
“Yeah, yeah I can…”
“Hehe! Look at us! We are sitting here, talking to each other about holidays, and you feel great!”
“Yeah it does feel good! I feel as though I have known you for a long time, and as though I can tell you anything.”
“I feel the same way! And I am sure that naturally, as you think about it now, you might realise that the more I speak to you; the stronger you may feel (Scratch neck) about our relationship.”

There you go, an example conversation using the majority of the techniques described above. And it could keep going on until you leave making her feel very happy (anchor).☺